Self-Image
A woman’s breasts symbolize so many things, including
motherhood, sexuality and being a woman. For some women, breasts now represent
cancer. Most women, and their partners, will need to take time to grieve the
loss of (or changes in) their breast(s). Joining a support group may help you cope with the changes
in your body and self-image. Remind yourself that healing takes time and at
some point, you will become more comfortable with your new normal.
Accepting yourself as you are is all part of the process.
How to Talk with Your
Partner
While there is no such thing as a perfect time to talk, some
times are better than others. Choose a moment when you are alone and relaxed.
When you feel comfortable, give yourself and your partner permission to talk
about your feelings, both good and bad. Above all else, be honest.- Your biggest fears. You may not feel pretty or worry that your partner finds you less attractive. You may be afraid your partner will reject or leave you due to your breast cancer.
- Your partner’s fears. Your partner may be afraid of physically hurting you during sex. He/she may be confused or unsure of the best way to show support and affection and is waiting on you for cues on when to resume an intimate and/or sexual relationship.
- Birth control. Treatments such as radiation or chemotherapy and tamoxifen can cause birth defects, so it is import to talk to your partner about birth control. After treatment, do not assume that you can no longer become pregnant.
- Your “new” sex life. Breast cancer may change what you like to do and how you like to be touched during sex. You may not even want to have sex for a while, so it is important to talk to your partner about how you are feeling.
- Get romantic. Bring romance back by planning a candlelight dinner, taking a bubble bath or other romantic gestures. Take the time to nurture your sexuality.
- Go slow. Kissing and touching can provide pleasure and help with intimacy. Do not rush into something until you feel comfortable with it.
- Get comfortable. Sex may be painful because of changes in your body, due to breast cancer treatment. Try using water-based lubricants just before sex. To help with vaginal dryness, try an estrogen-free vaginal moisturizer. These products are available over the counter without a prescription. Since they do not contain estrogen, they’re safe for breast cancer survivors. If vaginal dryness is still a problem, contact your doctor.
- Try something different. Change your sexual routine and try new things and have fun!
- Get some advice. Consider seeking advice from a marriage counselor, sex therapist or joining a support group. You can go with your partner or by yourself.
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